One of the most stressful aspects of preparing for a wedding is figuring out how many people to include on the guest list and then how to correctly address the wedding invitations. Unless you are planning an extremely casual and informal wedding with just a few close friends and family invited, it will be necessary for you to send out wedding invitations and observe proper wedding invitation etiquette. In this day and age of unique family circumstances it can be difficult to know the correct social protocol adhere to when addressing and sending wedding invitation. Provided below are some tips on wedding invitation etiquette.
Each and every guest should receive their own invitation. If one set of parents is hosting the wedding, the other set of parents should receive an invitation even when they generally obviously know all about the particulars. The same holds true for any siblings, regardless of whether they live in the same home of the bride and groom or not. It is not necessary to send separate invitations for children under the age of 18 that you plan to invite to the wedding, unless the child in question is particularly close to the bride or groom and they wish to make the child feel special.
The matter of inviting children to the wedding is handled by including their names on the invitation with the parents. That said, it is not necessary that underage children be invited to the wedding and reception, if the couple wishes to keep this happy occasion an adult only affair. In order to indicate that children are not invited to the event, simply omit their names from the invitation when it is addressed. There is no need to make any kind of statement such as ‘children not invited’ or ‘adults only.’ Most parents will take the hint when they do not see their children’s names included on the invitation and realize they need to make childcare arrangements if they plan to attend the wedding.
Young people, who are over the age of 18, even if they are still in school or reside at the home of their parents, should receive a separate invitation, however. The invitation should be addressed to their full name and the inside of the envelope should indicate it is acceptable for them to bring a guest.
In regard to guests of the guest, wedding invitation etiquette does require that you allow your guests to bring a guest of their own, if they are unattached. Obviously, married couples will be sent a single invitation. Persons who are unmarried, but who have a significant other can receive invitations in a number of ways.
If the couple is unmarried but lives together, a single invitation can be sent to their residence addressed to both their full names, listed alphabetically on the invitation. In the case of couples who are unmarried and do not live together, it is acceptable to send an invitation to the person who is closest to the bride and groom. In the event that both persons are particularly close to the bride and groom, it is acceptable to send an invitation to both persons, indicating guest on the inner envelope.